Should I?

So today has been an average day. I got most of my hair chopped off this morning, before college. It was quite a shock to friends and family, but apparently I look good with short hair. Although I keep finding myself going to move my non-existent fringe out of my face ... it saddens me. I have also just completed a 4 month project and am SO glad I do not have to do anything else; it is also half term, so I get a week’s holiday! I am also in a good mood because I spent the night flirting with a (decently) cute boy who I know is gay. Only problem is, he is friends with my ‘group’ and goes to my college. So if I tell him, I risk letting my secret out of the bag :/ Should I do it?!

Tonight’s instalment I hope, will help those of you confront your fears over coming out via txt, internet, email ect. This is the story of how I told Eve ...

So I had always been tempted to tell Eves about m sexuality, but it was always one excuse after another. Ironically, I used to have a very large crush on her, and in more recent years: her brother (he even wrote me a message asking for a date, but that’s for another time). I only told her when I did because I decided that I would tell her best friend and I expected them to talk; with my permission or not: so I told her. I struggled quite a lot with finding an excuse to talk about ‘gay’ things, as I personally find it easier to come out if you are on the subject, and it’s even better if they ask you.  However, with her brother being gay (I know!:D) and me not being sure who the message was from, we inevitably got onto the topic of homosexuality. Fortunately for me, we often joked around the idea of me and her brother dating, so this was bound to ‘turn up’ in our conversation. And it did. But when the time came to tell her, I chickened out. I even had the perfect opportunity, where she basically asked, but I played around with the question without answering it. Finally, after about an hour of talking, I decided it was not or never. So I just came outright and told her. I told her everything: Oliver, Joe, her Brother. Everything! We then talked for another hour, and how she felt privileged as she knew before her best friend: who incidentally I told the next day.

So today’s advice?

Coming out is no different than when you do it face-to-face, providing you have the right person. Although some people may prefer to do it in person, as you can gauge their reaction and look them in the eye, making it more personal and easier to react to.

Do it quickly. Don’t beat around the bush, as more often than not, they will be accepting and just want it out in the open.

Stick with me, I’m almost done with my coming-out stories :)

- Ttyl Jack xx